Forming a sense of Self Worth in Life.

A lack of Self Worth manifests in multiple ways, but most often it appears in a sense of uncertainty over your life. A feeling of underlying anxiety that will not go away no matter how hard you try.

Without Self Worth you can often wonder what the point of it all is. You do not know your purpose, or what it is you are good for…if anything at all.


Self Worth is the feeling that your life has some importance, that you are worthy as a human being.

If you lack Self Worth you may see potentially see certain signs. Some of these include:

  • Setting Boundaries: If you lack self worth you may struggle with setting boundaries, after all if you see yourself as not important, why would you think that your needs and values matter as much as anyone else’s?
  • Cynicism: Lacking self worth can manifest in a cynicism towards everything you do, a feeling of “What is the point?” can often occur.
  • Settling in Life: If you are stuck in a miserable relationship or job, it might be worth asking yourself why that is. If it is because you cannot possibly see yourself accomplishing anything more than that, seeing it as simply your lot in life there might be a problem.
  • A feeling of Victimhood: This is something that is prevalent with those with low self worth, and arguably has the worst effect. Feeling like a victim in life, letting people run you over and use you is a dangerous thing. It can also lead to resentment, which in turn could lead to lashing out at people you care about.
  • Becoming a Martyr: A very real risk when you lack self worth is letting yourself become a Martyr. Sacrificing yourself for others, with no care about how badly you are damaged or hurt. The opposite of this is not selfishness, just taking care of yourself so that you can actually do good in the world. Much more good than if you let yourself be beaten to the point of being to weak do anything else.

However it is not all doom and gloom, their are ways to improve your sense of Self Worth and purpose in your life. These include but are not limited to:

  • Discovering your core beliefs: This goes involves paying careful attention to your mind and what it is saying about yourself. This is often easier when sitting quietly and can be quite unpleasant, but is important to see what the darker parts of yourself thing about you in order to counter them. Once discovered you can work on addressing them though many means.
  • Stand for what you believe in: To stand for what you believe in is essential. It gives you conviction and gravitas. It makes you the Hero of your own story instead of someone helplessly carried down the river of life. If you do not compromise your values, and stand for them, you will make yourself worthy of self respect.
  • Put more effort into Self-Care: Make sure to take care of yourself over always pleasing others. After all, if you are a wreck and have not made sure to maintain yourself, how are you meant to be able to successfully help others?
  • Journal: Make sure to write down what it is you think of yourself. As well as to note down what it is you stand for in life. As well as this it is a good idea to write down the good you do in a day to day setting, be it helping raise your children or bringing a little bit of light into a persons day.

Overall it is important to focus on your innate value. Everyone has the ability to change how someone sees the world, to potentially shine a little bit more light onto it and hopefully this will help realize your true potential.

Published by Duncan Hookey

A British/Canadian writer who writes about various topics related to how to make the most out of life.

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